To my SKS Parents and Students:
Take a moment and consider something that most people don’t want to talk about. Certainly, not with a new student who is engaged, excited and highly motivated.
But the truth is……
There will possibly come a time in your martial arts training that you or your child will want to quit. This is actually an important time for the younger student, in fact I believe it is a moment of opportunity!
The reason I think it’s an opportunity is because it is a time for your child to learn how to face adversity and challenge, and for you to help them overcome it.
Most children don’t quit, their parents do.
I realize this may sound a bit harsh, but after teaching hundreds of students over the years, I have seen a consistent pattern emerge for those students that quit and those students who persevere and achieve all of the goals they had when they enrolled in our school.
There are several reasons why parents “quit” on SKS.
Maybe as a parent you feel you don’t want to make your child do something they don’t want to do, or maybe it was hard getting them to classes weekly and now on top of that struggle, they fight you to go to class. Maybe you look at the cost and think it’s too expensive, even though when you enrolled you probably commented that the fees were very reasonable!
As a father of 3 boys, I know first hand that parents today, carry a heavy load and it’s not easy. But nothing in life that has meaningful value is NOT easy.
I can’t tell you the number of former students who have come up to me years later and told me they made such a big mistake not persevering and achieving their black belt.
I have had several parents tell me in confidence, the problems they had with their child when they enrolled significantly improved as a result of training at SKS, only to reappear a few months after quitting.
There can be many conscious and subconscious reasons we support our children to quit.
But I can tell you that at our philosophy at SKS is to create a passion for perseverance, to train with an unshakable non quitting spirit, and to fight the will to give up. And we do this together, supporting each other as a team.
One of the most important values we want our students to learn at Samurai Karate Studio is Perseverance.
Perseverance is the most powerful trait they must have in order to succeed in life, and is equally important for adult students. Through perseverance, we don’t have to be labeled as ‘Smart’, ‘Great Grades’, ‘Strong’, ‘Special’, ‘Talented’, ‘Athletic’. We have to teach our children, our students, that empowerment comes from their heart, through perseverance! We have to teach our children and ourselves that as long as we persevere we can accomplish anything in life.
But, how do we teach that if we don’t teach them how to overcome adversity?
When that feeling of quitting, or ‘taking a break’ happens, there are two things you can do: quit or overcome the challenges being faced.
By helping our students to overcome adversity they will become more confident and empowered. This is the main reason for training in the martial arts and was most likely why you choose this endeavor.
What Is The Life Lesson Of Quitting?
It may not seem like it now, but teaching your child it’s okay to quit sets them up for a pattern of behavior later in life. Now a days, I see and hear these comments often:
“I can’t seem to get along with my spouse, we might as well get a divorce!”
“Man, I can’t stand my boss, I’ll just quit my job even though I don’t have another one waiting!”
“College is so hard! I’m just not smart enough so I think I’ll quit.”
Sound familiar to you too?
What’s The Real Reason?
Many times parents will tell me their child no longer has fun taking karate. I ask the parent to watch class and see if they are engaged and participating. 99 out of a 100 times they are. The REAL issue is not that they aren’t enjoying class, it’s almost always due to a student losing confidence.
This happens when a student moves up a training level. Suddenly, class is more challenging and more is expected of the student. Or perhaps, the student has missed class due to illness or being gone for the summer. They return feeling behind and suddenly more self conscious of their own abilities.
By confronting these challenges and overcoming them, we will make a powerful impact on the future of our students by teaching them ‘Not To Give Up’.
Our goal here is to work toward the growth and development of mind, body, and spirit through perseverance.
If you ever need to discuss any issues please know that I am always available.
To the success of you and your children,
Sensei Chris Feldt
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Sensei Chris Feldt is the owner and chief instructor of Samurai Karate Studio, a leadership academy located in Northeast Columbia, South Carolina. His school teaches karate to children and adults ages 4 and up. SKS specializes in self-defense, anti-bullying, stranger danger and character and leadership development.
Mr. Feldt was an adjunct professor at the University of South Carolina for college credit in karate and self-defense. Samurai Karate Studio has been recognized as a leader in martial arts instruction by being honored with the Best of Columbia Award for 5 consecutive years in a row.
Sensei Feldt is a certified instructor for C.O.B.R.A., a worldwide self-defense, and personal protection program. SKS offers Active Shooter Training, Real Estate Safety, 10 Week Self Defense Academies, Bully Workshops, and Child Safety Camps.
Sensei Feldt has been a guest speaker in the Richland 2 School District covering school talks on stranger danger, anti-bullying strategies, kindness, and making good choices. He is available for both private and corporate self-defense seminars
Samurai Karate Studio is also a proud member of MAAB, Martial Artists Against Bullying, a nationwide program made up of martial arts schools throughout the country that are committed to helping children who are victims of bullying. If you or someone you know is being bullied, we are here to help. But, you have to take the first step and either call us at 803-462-9425 or email us at: [email protected]
Bullying is one of the most serious issues we face today and with the right coaching, students can learn how to defeat the bully using non-violent strategies.