Teddy Roosevelt once said that “comparison is the thief of joy”…
I would go one further though and say that missed expectations are right up there as happiness thieves as well, but I’ll come back to those later…
The interesting thing about comparison and expectations is that we do both to ourselves (with our thoughts), which means we can choose to do better.
One of my favorite things about coaching a person through his/her personal martial arts journey is that it is just that: personal.
We all have our own goals…histories…likes…circumstances in our lives…genetics…health considerations etc.
All of these factors impact the journey – so with that being the case why would we ever compare ourselves to others?
It doesn’t make sense to compare. But we do it – right?
You compare. I compare. She compares. He compares.
No good comes of it.
I’m intensely proud of all of you and our students here at Samurai Karate Studio.
(Not that what I think matters- the only thing that truly matters is how you feel about your own results/journey.)
You’re accomplishments are remarkable and your commitment to being healthier, more confident and better versions of yourselves is what drives us to do what we do.
I firmly believe that most everyone sees numbers that align with their expectations and desired outcomes, but every now and then this isn’t so.
It is a sad time for me when I meet with a student who looks great, feels great and has had a dramatic transformation, yet is disappointed because they think others might be doing better……or worse……his or her parents look around and compare and think he or she should be doing better.
It’s your martial arts journey, not mine!
You have your life.
I have mine.
She/he has hers/his.
I’m committed to doing my thing the very best that I can and then continuing to work on letting go of comparison.
When I go to be at night, I reflect on my day and quietly self examine the results – did give the very best I could, to be a better version of myself: fitter, healthier, kinder, more generous, more productive, more competent in my karate training, etc.
Then I’m going to (work on) let(ting) go of whatever anyone else is doing because there journey is different from mine.
Are you with me?
Will you too, do the very best you can and then be ok with the result?
I’m committed to your success – and the joy of the journey.
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Sensei Chris Feldt is the owner and chief instructor of Samurai Karate Studio, a leadership academy located in Northeast Columbia, South Carolina. His school teaches karate to children and adults ages 4 and up. SKS specializes in self-defense, anti-bullying, stranger danger and character and leadership development.
Mr. Feldt was an adjunct professor at the University of South Carolina for college credit in karate and self-defense. Samurai Karate Studio has been recognized as a leader in martial arts instruction by being honored with the Best of Columbia Award for 5 consecutive years in a row.
Sensei Feldt has been a guest speaker in the Richland 2 School District covering school talks on stranger danger, anti-bullying strategies, kindness, and making good choices. He is available for both private and corporate self-defense seminars.
Samurai Karate Studio is also a proud member of MAAB, Martial Artists Against Bullying, a nationwide program made up of martial arts schools throughout the country that are committed to helping children who are victims of bullying. If you or someone you know is being bullied, we are here to help. But, you have to take the first step and either call us at 803-462-9425 or email us at: [email protected]
Bullying is one of the most serious issues we face today and with the right coaching, students can learn how to defeat the bully using non-violent strategies.